Today I learnt a new word - "omniomania" .......... it means compulsive shopping.
Regular readers will know that not so very long ago I had a clothes clear-out (as well as a clear-out of almost every other type). So, sane people would assume that I now have a clutter-free wardrobe. Unfortunately, that is not the case and having followed recent programmes on British television showing a variety of people and their obsessive collecting/hoarding/spending, I realise that I have an issue.
Okay we don't actually have to crawl through small tunnels burrowed through clutter and most of the house is pretty reasonable, but I have hoards! The garage and the attic are stacked to the rafters and it was getting impossible to get anything in or out of my wardrobe(s). So in true AA style - here's my confession ...... my name is Mrs Thrifty and I am a compulsive shopper.
Now before you ask me what I am doing when I am claiming to be thrifty and frugal, I have only bought 2 new t-shirts (Deben**** sale) and a cardigan off ebay since January, all of which were needed and have been worn to death. In fact, it is the very hoard of assorted clutter that has motivated my frugalia (I think I just made up a word!). I rarely buy clothes at full price, but if they are reduced I buy them ... or used to! I have often wondered why I am addicted to shopping (and food while we are on the subject - might as well go the whole hog - but I don't do drink, or drugs, or cigarettes). A quick look on the internet gave the following information....
As with other addictions, shopping addiction is highly ritualized and follows a typically addictive pattern of thoughts about shopping, planning shopping trips, and the shopping act itself, often described as pleasurable, ecstatic even, and as providing relief from negative feelings. Finally, the shopper crashes, with feelings of disappointment, particularly with the him/herself.
Compulsive shoppers use shopping as a way of escaping negative feelings, such as depression, anxiety, boredom, self-critical thoughts, and anger. Unfortunately, the escape is short-lived. The purchases are often simply hoarded unused, and compulsive shoppers will then begin to plan the next spending spree. Most shop alone, although some shop with others who enjoy it. Generally, it will lead to embarrassment to shop with people who don’t share this type of enthusiasm for shopping."
I guess it is all linked to low self-esteem - I need to shift some weight and hate the way I look, so I buy clothes because I think that they might just hide the excess weight - so who am I kidding?
Well, all I can say is "Oh dear" and I know what you are waiting for .... you want the evidence don't you? I thought so. Okay, so here is my next attempt at my wardrobe which happened last weekend..... it is a work in progress:
So, now you believe me..... and guess what?
What you can see is just my winter clothes. As well as this lot there are 6 plastic boxes on top of the wardrobes. In the attic are my summer clothes - I am guessing there are around 8 boxes of clothes up there. On top of what you see, there was a huge pile of clothing on the landing waiting to go to the charity shop. Last summer I gave 18 bin bags of clothes to charity - yes, that's right, 18!!!!!
I read a blog the other day and the writer (a woman) said you only need about 7 everyday outfits ... I think I have more than 70; actually that is probably a conservative estimate! I would actually really love the freedom that would come from only having 7 outfits.
So, come on lovely readers, if these were your clothes, where would you start? Do you suffer from omniomania? Or do you shop for other things that you don't really need? The wonderful Sue over at Our New Life in the Country is living this week on £1 a day - http://ournewlifeinthecountry.blogspot.co.uk/ So, while she is doing that I feel even guiltier about my hoard and all I can say is that I have stopped buying ... I am just finding it hard to get rid of everything. But before you ask, I am back on the weight watchers programme!
Love Mrs Thrifty